BFFs

We see it everywhere; BFF, best friends forever. It is usually used by silly teenage girls as they ogle over magazine pictures of Kirk Cameron, oh.. I mean Internet photos of Zac Efron. It is so easy to say FOREVER when you are 13 years old and second period seems to last FOREVER. But what does it mean for people who go separate ways after high school, get married, have kids, careers, new friends, buy houses, sell houses, move, and move again and basically move on? How does the giggly promise that we will be BFFs play out over 18 years.
I'll tell you what it means for me. Last week I went to a funeral of someone I knew in high school but hadn't really though about in the 20 years since he graduated. I got there late and slid into the row where my two friends from high school, Bridget and Shanna were sitting. It is hard to describe how it felt to see them both sitting there together like no time had passed. I don't want to embarrass them (they both read this blog) but they were radiant, (I think people with good hearts age well) and it was natural and comfortable to be sitting there sharing the grief of the moment. And that is what best friends forever means. That we are still comfortable with each other in spite of time and distance. We don't have to be in each others lives every day or even year but we will be there for each other when we can. Thank goodness for facebook that lets us connect, even in a superficial way, because really sometimes that is enough. Friendship doesn't have to take a lot of effort, especially when you are going to be BFFs forever. And forever is a long time.

Sorry girls, I know the picture isn't great but it is the only one I could find of the two of you- love you guys!